If every conflict somehow ends with you apologizing — even when you were the one hurt — pause. That’s not random. And it’s not because you’re “too sensitive.” As a trauma therapist working with survivors of narcissistic and abusive relationships for over a decade, I...
Growing up as a Latina, especially in an immigrant family, comes with unspoken rules, invisible burdens, and deeply rooted expectations. We were taught to be quiet, respectful, self-sacrificing. To mature too fast. To take care of others while ignoring our own needs. Many of us...
El trauma no se queda en el pasado—vive en el cuerpo, en nuestras reacciones, en nuestras relaciones difíciles y en los disparadores emocionales que no siempre entendemos. Para muchas personas en nuestras comunidades latinas e inmigrantes, nos han enseñado a seguir adelante sin mirar atrás. “Eso ya pasó” o “Hay que aguantar” son frases comunes que minimizan nuestro dolor en lugar de ayudarnos a sanar.
Trauma doesn’t just live in the past—it lives in the body, in the way we react to situations, in the relationships we struggle with, and in the triggers we don’t always understand. Many of us, especially in Latinx and BIPOC communities, have been taught to push through, to keep going, to not talk about what hurt us. “Eso ya pasó” (That’s in the past) or “Hay que aguantar” (You have to endure) are common phrases that dismiss our pain rather than help us heal.