Signs of Domestic Abuse

Posted: October 5, 2022

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

In honor of the individuals who have suffered, survived and lost their lives to Intimate Partner Violence this month I will but focusing my content on domestic violence awareness.

When we enter into a relationship, we do so trusting the other person has our best interests at heart. We are swept away with romance and promises, so quickly that at times we don't realize how quick the relationship is progressing. One minute they are making you smile, the next they are making you cry. Abusive behaviors slowly shows up, in what seemed like a perfect relationship. The abuse can be emotional, verbal, physical, sexual, economic, psychological, even spiritual.

Abusers come in all colors, shapes and sizes, and from all cultures and religious backgrounds. And while you may think someone who is capable of violence must have a criminal background, studies have found that 90% of abusers do not have criminal backgrounds.

Domestic Abuse Red Flags

Domestic abuse often starts with small “not right” behaviors, and it can be difficult to notice the signs at first. Especially if your partner says, “I love you” and does nice things for you on occasion.

Here are some signs you may be in a dangerous situation:

Jealous Tendencies

Partners that are extremely possessive are known to become violent. If they are calling you constantly and monitoring your daily schedule, this is a red flag.

Controlling

You are forced to ask permission to do things. They control the money in the relationship.

Unrealistic Expectations

You are expected to look, be and act perfectly. His or her needs must be met happily and without a miss.

Isolation

Your partner tries to keep you away from friends and family. Those you do see are accused of being “trouble makers” and painting your partner in a bad light.

Hypersensitivity

Abusers are often hypersensitive and have their feelings easily hurt. This can instantly make them angry so they lash out.

Verbal Abuse

You are constantly being criticized. They will call you names and say terrible things. In these moments, you sense they are getting pleasure out of causing you pain.

Abuse is Never Okay

To reiterate, abuse can start off slowly, but things can escalate quickly. No form of abuse or disrespect in a relationship is ever okay. If you are a victim of domestic abuse, it is very important to get some help. Don’t hesitate to call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) or 1-800-787-3224.

You may also want to speak to a counselor who can help you navigate your feelings and develop coping strategies so you can get yourself well and move on from your current situation. Please feel free to reach out to me if you’d like to discuss treatment options.

SOURCES:

https://www.womenshealth.gov/relationships-and-safety/domestic-violence/signs-domestic-violence
https://domesticviolence.org/domestic-abuse-signs/
https://www.ncadv.org/signs-of-abuse